What Is A Reappraisal Response?

“You didn’t get the job.”  “We don’t need your services any longer.”  “You weren’t accepted”    Have you received these kinds of message? Did it create: A momentary gut punch? Exasperation? Or a vortex of doom? And then, viola – you say, “I’ll figure it out. I always do.” That my friend, is a “reappraisal response.” You pause and reevaluate a …

Can You Dosey Doe and Speak?

My first speaking engagement was a lunch event. Roasted chicken, green beans and chocolate cake were my greatest competition for the audience’s attention. That was a challenge. The shape of the room required me to stand in a doorway, the same door the waiter used to enter and exit. The audience is having lunch. I’m doing “dosey doe” with the …

How To Reduce Nervous Anticipation

I walk ahead of myself in perpetual expectancy of miracles.  ~Anais Nin   My UNCA student’s 3rd speech assignment is due and they’ve claimed their spot in the cue. But, there’s no eye contact, zero smiles, energy is subdued and panic reads on their faces. I ask, “help me understand what goes on for you as you prepare to speak.” …